What’s Holding You Back?? Here’s Why You MUST Find Out!

This year, I set about on a mission towards happiness. (I even bought a Happiness Planner…no seriously). As months have gone by, i’ve read tons of books on bringing out my inner badass, warrior, goddess ,you name it. All of that felt good, but there was still something missing. I see myself changing for the better, but one burning question has been on my mind – What is holding me back?? 

From launching a new business (or two), getting those new shiny glasses I know I deserve, going to get my hair done., working out….WHY am I not doing the things I know I can do to take it to the next level? What is holding me back from being the greatest version of myself?

As intuitive as I am, and as many books as I read I came to the realization that I needed help in figuring this out! As most coaches do, I turned to a coach to guide me to finding the answers within myself! I have been on the 7 Day Reiki Challenge being sponsored by Rebecca Nicholls of Queen of My Life London . Each day of the challenge focuses on 1 of the Chakras or energy centers in the body. These energy centers control our state of wellbeing and the actions we take daily, whether we know it or not!

As I have been going through the exercises, many things have come up. Particularly deep feelings on money, power, security and personal energy blockages within the chakras. I came to realize that, girl! – there are several things holding you back! I didn’t get too sad at this, because I know that awareness is the first step to healing and crushing the game!

Have you taken the time to think about why you aren’t where you would like to be? There is a reason, heck probably several reasons! Here are some that came up for me:

  • Guilt / shame associated with manifesting money and becoming successful
  • Giving away your power to someone, thing, or situation
  • Not actively pursuing activities or goals that would make you happy
  • Building a wall around your heart, due to past hurts which disables you from being open to new things, and loving experiences

Phew, quite a list right? See the thing is, we go through stuff, and find ways to survive in the immediate/ present. Over time, these feelings, emotions, hurts, etc. build up in our mind, body and spirit. and become blockages in our chakra system.

Here comes the BS – these blockages are lowkey blocking your blessings honey! Looking at it that way, don’t you think it’s worth it to understand what they are?

A great place to start is by reading the book “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay. This has really helped me to understand the concept that problems in the mind/spirit transfer to our bodies and the physical life we have manifested for ourselves. Since that is true, once we learn what our blocks are, we can work to heal them and clear the path for some good shit to come through!

And we all love good shit right?


If you want more help with this, I will be offering programs and 1-1 coaching before the end of the year to help you clear what is blocking you and take it to the next level! For now check this out – https://www.wikihow.com/Heal-Your-Chakras

Nikki Valentine, The Style Shaman


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